Thank you

Service Card

I would like to express my heartfelt thanks that so many people turned up to pay their final respects to Wendy. I feel bad that there were so many people that I never got to speak to everyone, it just became impossible.

It was a difficult and emotional day, but in the end I felt that it was also a fitting one. The hymns and reading were chosen by Wendy herself, so she got to do it ‘her way.’ The tribute by Darren Topp on behalf of BHS was so appropriate.

I know that we were all deeply moved by the tributes from Richard and Rebecca, and I so admired their courage in getting up to deliver them. I also want to thank our good friend Ian Morton for delivering the reading which meant so much to both of us. Wendy has excerpts from that reading as wall art about the house.

Yesterday I received a call from Juliett, the funeral director. She told me that you had generously donated almost £1,000 to Wendy’s charities on the day alone. Thank you all so much for this.

So many of you have let me know how much you all thought of Wendy. I too spoke on Wednesday, but I had to ‘tone down’ the emotion, or I would never have got through it. I often told Wendy how much I thought of her, but in her own self-deprocating way she would just say ‘you’re biased!’ But you have all shown me that she was indeed very special – it wasn’t just me. I was just the guy who was lucky enough to have her by my side every day, and I miss her terribly.

Yesterday, together with Judy and Rebecca, we took Molly for a walk in Hughenden – something I had done with Wendy many times. We stopped at a bench to rest and there was single daisy growing in the grass, which seemed very poigniant. I didn’t pick it, but left it for others to enjoy.

Today, I return to work. My employers have been very supportive, They let me work from home when Wendy needed me and they have given me the time and space I needed at the end. But I know I must pick up the pieces and carry on, I have to just take one day at a time.

Some while ago, I signed up to the Decembeard campaign. Wendy hated the idea of me growing a beard, but reluctantly agreed that I should be allowed to do my bit for Beating Bowel Cancer. I couldn’t start on the 1st of December, because I wanted to be clean shaven for her on Wednesday. But I’m starting now and will continue into January to make up for the late start. You can sponsor me here.

I still have a box of ‘Bostin Bums Calendars‘ to sell, please consider buying one if you haven’t already. We’ve lost our Wendy now, but sadly there are too many other people like her that need our help.

Finally, can I say a big thank you to some of Wendy’s special friends who are still helping and supporting me. You know who you are and I really do appreciate it.


Funeral Information

We have been touched as a family by how many people wish to come to Wendy’s funeral. We would love you to be there, so I am going to share the information here.

We are going to start by offering you refreshments from 1pm at the Oakley Hall. This sounds very grand but is in fact an unimposing building next to the church at 8 Castle Street, High Wycombe HP13 6RF. Unfortunately, the hall is upstairs and there is no lift (just in case anyone has mobility difficulties). There is a small NCP car park between the hall and the church, but it is expensive and might be full. However, the Eden Centre multi storey is only a short walk away. I have produced a google map which shows the layout and also the shortest walking route to the lifts in the Eden car park.

The church service itself begins at 3pm, and we ask that you take your seats in good time as family and close friends will follow when Wendy is brought in to the church.

The service will be followed by a Committal at the Chilterns Crematorium, Whielden Lane, Amersham, HP7 0ND. You are most welcome to come here too, and we will allow sufficient time for you to return to your car and make your way there.

It would be really helpful if you could let us know if you plan to come so that we can guage numbers.

In accordance with Wendy’s wishes, please do not buy flowers. Instead, we would ask that you donate the money to Wendy’s charities: Rennie Grove Hospice Care and Beating Bowel Cancer. You can do this via the links in the blog or hand your donations to the funeral director on the day.